Saturday, 26 May 2012
So today I was reading a news article about LoLo Jones, the 29 year old olympian runner who also happens to be a virgin. It always catches my attention to see other 20 something yr old vrigins like myself who are waiting to marriage to experience intimacy w\ future husband. It caused me to think about what men deem to be important in a spouse....
Its not so much a big deal to certain men if a woman is a virgin because we live in a different time era. However, I began to ponder what other attributes I should have to be a wife that's actually a help to her husband and not a hinderance.
So here's the list of things I view as. Important factors men would like in a spouse:
1. A woman who is supportive, yet objective in her perspective.
2. A woman who responsibly pays on debts so that she can minimize what she owes to bring less baggage into a marriage.
3. A woman who has good hygiene and practices weekly fitness.
4. A woman who doesn't nag, yet rather she can show a man what her thoughts are in a non confrontional yet assertive manner.
5. A woman who has a mind to help relieve her spouses stress thru running his bathwater, massages, cooking his favorite meals.
6. A woman who is willing to learn how to do things she may have no experience in that her spouse may want her to do (example: cooking, certain sports: tennis, softball etc. or even taking a massage therapy class to learn how to effectively rub her hubby down)
7. A woman who knows when to be uplifting and doesn't downgrade her spouse.
8. A woman who makes an effort to balance finances and not spend unneccessary large sums of money on wants instead of needs.
9. A woman who respects her spouses viewpoints and trusts his advice.
10. A woman who prays for her spouse more than she prays for herself. One who puts her hubby's needs before her own as well as the rest of her household.
These are the top ten things that christian men would want in a spouse. However, there are certain men who may desire a more aggressive woman that they can cater to....yet this top ten here is moreso for those who want a biblically based marriage.
7. A woman who is
Monday, 14 May 2012
So I've always been the optimistic type that could see potential in the worst of people or would give second chances to someone who shows evidence of being reformed.
Yet, is it best to always see the glass half full or is there times when its neccessary to see the glass half empty?
When I was growing up my Aunt raised me and I remember her being the most pessimistic person. One report card day I said " I got 2 B's, an A, and 2 C's and she automatically wanted to know what classes I got my lowest grades in. She always focused in the bad news....she could always tell you what a persons weaknesses were a lot quicker than she could tell you their strengths. Because I noticed this when I became a teenager, I refused to view people that way. I was always told that I was "slow and that I daydreamed too much." I would set aside time throughout the day to just stare out the window and daydream. Aunt Evonne didn't like that I would zone out into my own little world and she began to tell me I had a "mental problem."
As I started high school I started to believe what she said about me....I started to believe I was dumb. Aunt Evonne even had my sister believing I'd never graduate from high school. Which is kind of strange because I was never in special education classes. However I would leave school early (skipping class) hanging out with the wrong friends and they just lost hope for me. Aunt Evonne even told me I wasn't college material. Yet, I graduated from high school at the age of 17 and I was accepted into a 4 yr university here in Texas. I began to reject the negative things that were said about me and gained a new perspective of myself. it worked for me because I ended up landing a nice job and getting my own place and turning into a christian. I'm the only female of all my cousins that hasn't had children out of wedlock and hasn't gotten hooked on drugs, because my relationship w\ Christ helped change my mindset not to believe how man saw me as the half empty cup....but to see myself as what the word of God says my life could be.
So now I view things in life with hope as though the glass is half full. I don't crumble under the weight of lifes burdens. Now of course I do realize that there are times when its neccessary to be more of a realist than a optimist. Yet, I will have a balance that still hopes for the best with anyone or any circumstance.
Wednesday, 11 April 2012
These are some memorable phrases that people have said to me and really left me in awe :)
"Its not because of the words you've spoken that makes you a good friend, but the actions you've done."
" You never have to pay me back for anything I do for you....I love you."
"You don't need to change your outward appearance at all. Your perfect just the way you are."
"When I said I couldn't stand you...what I really meant was "I need you."
"God is so attentive to us that he knows the number of hairs on our heads."
"There's no greater love, than for a man (Christ) to lay down his life for another."
"Who am I that God is mindful of me?"
"You'll be flesh of my flesh, bone of my bone like Eve was to Adam. You are my rib."
"I love you so much I'd change your diapers when you get old."
"when I hug you I'm squeezing you tight so I can feel your heart beating against mine"
"You make me sick! Get away from me! Wait....can you just come here.."
"Sometimes I stand really close to you because you smell nice and....this is gonna sound weird but.... I wanna always be able to find you in a crowd by your scent."
God chose us, we didn't choose him, and he ordained us that we should bring forth fruit, fruit that shall remain."
Thursday, 05 April 2012
I am the person whose father committed crimes for a living and now he has life in prison.
I am the woman who grew up without a mother because she passed away when I was just a toddler.
I am the woman that statistic's say I should be a drug addict or a criminal by now.
I am the 26 year old virgin, whose never been in prison and never been convicted of a felony.
I am the woman who always wanted to experience being drunk, but never did.
I am the woman who wondered what smoking would be like, but has never smoked ciggerettes.
I am the inexperienced one who didn't get my drivers license till I was 24 years old.
I am the one who was raised by an over protective aunt and uncle, who I'm so thankful for today.
I'm the woman who didn't grow up in a christian household, yet I decided to be baptized at age 18 at a christian assembly during my freshman year of college.
I am the person who began to study about Christ and started to pray daily.
I am the woman who began to experience God changing my heart.
I am the woman who had unforgiveness, strife, wrath, fear and impatience in her heart, but I don't anymore.
I am the woman that God has freed from these inner struggles.
I am the woman who was anti social and didn't trust people who I felt would hurt me.
I am the woman who became friendly after I began to trust God with my life and no longer allowed peoples actions to have any power over me to bother me.
I am the person who befriends, loners and people from all walks of life.
I am the friend who shows you love even whn your trying to be unlovable.
I am the woman who is desiring to budget my finances better.
I am the woman that has chosen not to date though I have met great guys.
I am the celibate sister who is focused on serving God and the community while finishing her college degree.
I am the daydreamer who thirst for travel and mission trips overseas.
I am that friend you make that try to get rid of but I'm still there, getting you gifts and showing I still care.
I am the person who crys and smiles when I read hallmark cards
I am the woman who wants a family someday.
I am the poetry lover, the red velvet crumb snatcher, the Christ fanatic, the hopeless romantic, the conversationalist when others get quiet, the truth speaker, the sentimental weeper, the family embracer, the no facial expression maker when others try to bring me down, the forgiver of those who have hurt me, and the admirer of God who breathed life into everything we now see.
Tuesday, 20 March 2012
There are so many choices I have to make. Its as though I'm walking thru the valley of desicions to be made. Many of these options I have can alter the course of my life forever.
There are 3 major choices I have to make:
1. Whether to move to another cityand pursue a career elsewhere.
2. Would it be profitable for me to remain in the city of Beaumont? The ministry is growing and I work in leadership w\ youth where I currently reside.
3. Should I work full time in the summer and put my last college courses off till the fall semester?
These 3 decisions are in my prayers and I see Gods guiding light seeing me thru each one of these things as the best choices to make. People have been giving me their perspective about what they'd do if they were in my shoes. Many of them have great suggestions, but there's one source where I gain my true counsel from and that's thru Christ. He has the last say so, even in times where I've gotten zealous and done particuliar things based on compassion for others~ God has always intervened and ended things they way he see's fit. I'm honored to have Him as the overseer in my life.
There was one time where I moved to Houston Tx for almost a year. During this time I felt really alone although my family lives there, but all my friends lived back home in Beaumont. So every week I would be crying out to God in prayer because I wasn't use to being alone so much. Eventually I met two women at a bible study they held at the college campus there, but ultimately I was secretly praying in my heart for God to open doors for my finances to be able to move back home. (I have no relatives in Beaumont, but I loved living there) Sure enough God answered my hearts cry and I was able to move back with a smooth transition to a new job and a nice home back in Beaumont. Because my life is in Christ, his word applies to me as it says here:
Proverbs 19: 20-21
v.20 Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter end.
v.21 There are many devices in a mans heart; nevertheless the counsel of the Lord, that shall stand.