Okay so previously I posted about upfront, serious ways to turn down dates. It's all because I haven't dated since 2008. That was the year I had my last long term relationship that lasted 5 going on 6 years. I'm a christian so of course I'm abstinent, but my friends and family (for those who don't already know) ask me why I don't date or why I haven't gotten into a relationship for the past few years.
Well, when it comes to dating, there are many things that go along with it like: affection and becoming attached to someone and there's no gurantee that you'll stay together. I've participated in the dating scene and it was emotionally exhausting and a waste of time. The next person that I find interest in as a potiential future spouse will be someone that I plan to have a strong foundation as friends. Then
we'll discuss if we see a future together w\ each other and become engaged. Nest phase is premarital counseling and both of us preparing to have a home and family together.
However, I understand that this process takes time and I'm content with where my life is now. I'm at liberty to travel, get degree's and do things on my terms for now so I'm enjoying this time.
Getting to know people can be a happy process and also a tedious process because you see things that are great about them, then you see things that are not so great....but all in all I know I also have the option to remain single if that's what I choose. Motherhood has always been appealing, so I also have the option of adopting if I choose to live a long term single life. I have brothers who have volunteered to be father figures for the child I would take into my custody. All of these thoughts are for future reference though and are by no means a present term deal.